In follow up to our previous post, Renee and I answered the first set of questions in this way.
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
Her: John Tesh, he has an endless array of knowledgeable tidbits, life hacks and information. I have been a fan of his “Intelligence For Your Life” program for over 15 years. His radio show kept me company many nights when I was working late nights.
Him: Seth Andrews, as he would be gracious, funny and enjoyable. And educational. We’d have lots to talk about in much in common.
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
Her: Being famous was never something I was too interested in. Having my privacy and enjoying moments of both social and intimate gatherings with my family and friends are far more important to me.
Him: I would not want to be very famous. The pressure and stress that goes with it doesn’t make up for whatever appeal there is but I wouldn’t mind being well known and respected by others
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
Her: Every time. I never enjoy talking on the telephone. I like to know ahead of time who I will be speaking to, what is the purpose of the conversation and my likely questions and answers.
Him: It’s rare for me. However, in a high stress situation, I will jot down some anticipated questions and write down my thoughts as a preparation.
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
Her: To wake up in my dream house Logan and I share, a large log home with a second floor wrap around balcony. Long flowing white curtains would be blowing freely in breeze. We would enjoy one of our favorite morning pastimes, naked coffee on the balcony. The view from our balcony is, the background, mountains with pine trees and the forefront, a crystal blue lake and grazing buckskin colored horses. Our breakfast would be french toast, fresh berries and syrup. In the afternoon we would take a short hike down to the lake. Carried along with us is a bottle of wine, blanket and a picnic basked filled with various cheeses, crackers, apple slices and grapes. We would enjoy the companionship of each other, conversations and our lunch. Later in the afternoon a motorcycle ride is in order to a restaurant. I intend to enjoy my beloved meal, surf and turf and Logan will order his choice of dessert, raspberry cheesecake. The sun is just setting on the ride home. While we were at dinner, we made plans to indulge in another of our other favorite activities, oiled back massages. My massage always includes a little something “extra” probing that Logan’s doesn’t. After experiencing mutual orgasms, there will be huge smiles, cuddling and deep sleep to end our perfect day. (Note: Logan wanted me to make it clear that it was during MY massage by HIM is I was the one who got PROBED, and NOT him. I didn’t think I needed to clarify that, but he did. Sorry for any confusion this may have caused.)
Him: I wake up next to Renee with the sound of ocean waves outside the window. We enjoy a relaxed cup of coffee in bed, followed by a delicious breakfast buffet at a restaurant. We have a stroll or walk through a beautiful area of nature. Maybe at a park or by some waterfalls or a stream. Perhaps a short game of tennis before lunch while the temperatures are pleasant (not too hot). We don some motorcycle gear and enjoy a nice ride on the bike to a café with outdoor seating on a warm sunny day. Afterwards we might spend with some mutual friends who share our worldview, perhaps playing cards against humanity and laughing a lot. We take a short nap in the late afternoon with the sound of the ocean and seagulls nearby. We dress up for a nice dinner at a fine restaurant, enjoying a few adult drinks and perhaps some ribeye steak and lobster tail. Then a stroll with the sun setting, followed by a movie, and ended with some hot steamy sex that puts us both into a deep restful sleep.
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
Her: I tend to sing to myself quite frequently, maybe even daily. I may not have a model singing voice but I have a natural knack and love for music.
Him: I will sometimes sing along with the radio, but I don’t remember singing to myself. I will sometimes sing a brief stanza to Renee to make her laugh though.
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
Her: My first thought would be to retain my mind, but who am I kidding? Even at my current age I somewhat miss my 30 year old body and the abuse I put it through. I hope during my last sixty years of my life, I am not crapping my pants and babbling on to myself.
Him: If my mind would age normally or gracefully, I’d prefer to retain the body of a 30-year old and create wonderful memories thanks to the energy and vitality of health. But if I was doomed to dementia or Alzheimer, I’d prefer the young mind.
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
Her: With the loss of both of my parents and brother to different types of cancer I have a fear that some type of cancer will be my demise.
Him: No. But I imagine living to an old age like my grandparents on my father’s side.
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
Her: Our love of good food, better coffee and sense of humor.
Him: Our shared love of music; shared worldview; we’re both introverts.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
Her: My freedom to be who I am with my worldview, sexuality and as a feminist. If it wasn’t for those who laid the groundwork and went before me I couldn’t be the person I am. I am also grateful for how Logan has touched my life. The best lessons he has taught me is that love doesn’t have to hurt and it is possible for both life and love to be kind, fun and enjoyable.
Him: I am most grateful for my relationship with Renee first, and when I think about how remote the chances were for us to meet, it makes me even more grateful. I am also grateful for my technology skills that have kept me employed.
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
Her: I would change the fact at a young age I was fondled and sexually abused by my brothers and other various men. Around the age of 13 or 14 I finally opened up to my mother. When I shared the details of one of the instances I endured, she told me to stop lying and not to bring it up ever again. Deep down I believe my mother knew something was amiss. Why else would she take me to have a type of vaginal exam by a doctor before I was eight?
Him: I’d change very little, and I’m fortunate in that regard. I do wish I’d gotten to spend more time with my father while growing up, as I only saw him about once a month.
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
Her: To be an extrovert, be comfortable to strike up conversations with strangers, dance and actually enjoy myself after being in a social setting for two hours.
Him: To sing as well as someone I admire, perhaps like Justin Timberlake, Paul McCartney, Robert Plant, Billy Joel, etc.